• Model of Salisbury Cathedral

How to get over heartbreak without the help of 730,000 matchsticks

When faced with heartbreak at the end of a relationship, Englishman and modelling enthusiast, Barry King refused to wallow in self pity, choosing instead to overcome his grief by building a model of Salisbury Cathedral using 730,000 matchsticks.


But not everybody has the time, inclination or patience (or indeed access to enough matchsticks) to get busy with the modelling glue, so what other original ways are there to support yourself while you heal and move on? Here are our favourite responses from the Internet:


TAKE UP A NEW HOBBY

“I bought myself a saxophone. Always wanted to learn but never had the chance or the money to buy one until he left.”

“Started drawing and rekindled my passion for it. Realised I'm better than I remember, usually doing Dotwork, Sketches and watercolours.” 


GIVE YOURSELF A WHOLE NEW CHALLENGE

“Set up my own catering business and my cooking helped me cope with raising my children, anxiety and depression after my break up.”

“Not exactly unusual; but after a "breakup" with a very dear friend (who blocked me with no word, because his new girlfriend didn't like me), I decided to start my counselling training. Losing such a close friend hurt a lot. For a while I was very very upset. Then I decided that I didn't need him to be happy. So I started my training. Now I'm soon to enter my third year, I'm going to start working with actual clients next month, and this time next year I'll be a fully qualified counsellor. I'm happy.”


THINK IT ALL THROUGH AND DON’T RUSH INTO ANYTHING NEW

“Take off the rose-colored glasses. Make a conscious effort to view the person as just a person, with flaws and insecurities and hang-ups, just like every other human in the world. It is easy to idealize an ex-lover after a heartbreak, thinking 'I'll never find anyone like him/her.' That's simply not true. You aren't perfect, they weren't perfect, and it obviously wasn't right. Search for the incompatibilities and the logic behind the breakup.”


“Time. Crying. Working out until I couldn't feel feelings. Talking to friends/family/therapist. Movies. Books. More time. Sleep. Dating other people. And then some more time. Repeat as needed.”


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Author: Rebecca

Rebecca lives in London with her husband, daughter and dachshund. She hopes her dating blogs for Flame Introductions will inspire you to seek out the best London and UK locations for brilliant dates, and discover some tips along the way to help you find your perfect partner.

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